No not LL Cool J (sorry ladies!).
I'm talking about 2010. LEARN from it, and then LEAVE IT behind. You know the saying: ‘Don’t dwell in the past, let it go!’
For years I have made it a practice to do meaningful things, other than partying, to close out the old year so that I could 1) be free from the anxiety and uncertainty that change may bring 2) get excited about yet another opportunity to create an even better year for myself.
The way I would make peace with the previous year was, and still is, to first check myself for anything I did to hurt or diss someone’s feelings or a situation I could have handled better. I don’t beat myself up but I trust and am honest with my self as I reflect and journal my thoughts ….then I let it go.
Let me interject something about the phrase ‘let it go’; I’d be remiss if I didn’t: Letting go is one of the most powerful and yes, difficult, principles of life BUT with right guidance and intention, it frees us up to truly experience the joy, health and creative expression that is our birthright. Ok, moving on….
Next, I recommit to building or revitalizing the major areas of my life that need a makeover, including appearance, personal finance, business, friendship/relationship and education (I’m currently studying for a major test coming up in June. Will keep you posted!).
So what have you LEARNED about yourself, event or situation you experiened in 2010? What are some things you can DO to make peace with it all and LEAVE IT behind...or let it go?
Teen Task: 1. Give yourself a chance. 2. Take a moment to contemplate (deeply reflect) each question above then jot down whatever comes up naturally for you for each question. Tip: Write non-stop for about 60 seconds for each question. Don’t worry about spelling or grammar, just write, get it out. You can proofread and edit your response later. 3. Discuss this blog with your parents or with those you feel safe sharing your thoughts.
Fun Fact: Remiss = negligent, inattentive, careless, lax.
Happy New Year! Check back for Q's B-Spot 2011! ~ Quelyn
Copyright©2010 Quelyn Purdie
Thursday, December 30, 2010
Sunday, November 28, 2010
Kanye West's RUNAWAY, The Film
The intent of this blog is to briefly discuss how to watch a film like RUNAWAY, vs. a critique of the film. As a matter of fact, Kanye West makes it very easy for us in his interview with Sway for MTV. West breaks down the creative process and his vision as executive producer of RUNAWAY. The interview includes a discussion about topics such as stereotypes, the effects of bullying and how West used past faux pas which lead to vilification by the media and others, to create, what many in the industry have considered, a game-changer and an ambitious work of art in RUNAWAY.
Click here for Sway's interview with Mr. West >>>>> http://www.mtv.com/videos/kanye-wests-runaway/1650620/playlist.jhtml
Laced in colorful art and symbolism, RUNAWAY is a 35-minute portrait of attachment, loss, fear, pain, freedom and revitalization (in my opinion or '2 cents'!). RUNAWAY challenges us to elevate how we watch film: with a more intellectual, inquisitive eye that will evoke lively yet intelligent dialogue…or compels us to take appropriate action.
Click here to see RUNAWAY >>>>> http://newsone.com/entertainment/newsonestaff4/kanye-west-fans-call-runaway-film-hands-down-amazing/
2. Message – What is the message of the film?
3. Symbolism - Are there allusions (references or suggestions) to historical events, other films, famous people, etc. that would give us an idea where the filmmaker is coming from?
4. Music – Music, when used appropriately in film, is a critical part of filmmaking. How ws music used in the film? Was it necessary?
5. Cinematography - Is there anything interesting about the lighting, camera angles, the sound, colors chosen for costumes, sets, etc.?
6. Attitude – What is the film’s attitude toward humanity, love, men, women, children, animals, global justice, etc.?
Remember: There is no right or wrong answer, even though the filmmaker will have their own vision and intention for the film.
RUNAWAY is the prelude to West’s new, critically acclaimed album My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy. My favorite cut is Lost in the World.
Thanks for reading. ~ Quelyn
Next on Q’s B-Spot: 2-Eleven
Teen Task: 1. Give yourself a chance. 2. How do YOU channel your own pain into passion? What makes YOU stand each time you feel knocked down? Jot down your thoughts in your journal. 3. Interested in making a film? In addition to tons of websites, books, and classes to choose from, there are hands-on opportunities to such as internships so you experience what it takes to do a film. For starters check out the following links! www.nycastings.com, www.mandy.com 4. Discuss this blog with your parents or with people you feel safe sharing your thoughts.
Fun Fact: RUNAWAY was shot in Hawaii, USA and Prague, CZECH REPUBLIC.
Copyright©2010 Quelyn Purdie
Click here for Sway's interview with Mr. West >>>>> http://www.mtv.com/videos/kanye-wests-runaway/1650620/playlist.jhtml
Laced in colorful art and symbolism, RUNAWAY is a 35-minute portrait of attachment, loss, fear, pain, freedom and revitalization (in my opinion or '2 cents'!). RUNAWAY challenges us to elevate how we watch film: with a more intellectual, inquisitive eye that will evoke lively yet intelligent dialogue…or compels us to take appropriate action.
Click here to see RUNAWAY >>>>> http://newsone.com/entertainment/newsonestaff4/kanye-west-fans-call-runaway-film-hands-down-amazing/
The following are some things to think about while watching a movie. You will have a more thoughtful yet lively conversation with friends after the film, especially art films such as RUNAWAY:
1. Relatable – Can I relate to the film/filmmaker’s voice? (how they feel/express their opinion about the topic). What was my favorite scene and why? 2. Message – What is the message of the film?
3. Symbolism - Are there allusions (references or suggestions) to historical events, other films, famous people, etc. that would give us an idea where the filmmaker is coming from?
4. Music – Music, when used appropriately in film, is a critical part of filmmaking. How ws music used in the film? Was it necessary?
5. Cinematography - Is there anything interesting about the lighting, camera angles, the sound, colors chosen for costumes, sets, etc.?
6. Attitude – What is the film’s attitude toward humanity, love, men, women, children, animals, global justice, etc.?
Remember: There is no right or wrong answer, even though the filmmaker will have their own vision and intention for the film.
RUNAWAY is the prelude to West’s new, critically acclaimed album My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy. My favorite cut is Lost in the World.
Thanks for reading. ~ Quelyn
Next on Q’s B-Spot: 2-Eleven
Teen Task: 1. Give yourself a chance. 2. How do YOU channel your own pain into passion? What makes YOU stand each time you feel knocked down? Jot down your thoughts in your journal. 3. Interested in making a film? In addition to tons of websites, books, and classes to choose from, there are hands-on opportunities to such as internships so you experience what it takes to do a film. For starters check out the following links! www.nycastings.com, www.mandy.com 4. Discuss this blog with your parents or with people you feel safe sharing your thoughts.
Fun Fact: RUNAWAY was shot in Hawaii, USA and Prague, CZECH REPUBLIC.
Copyright©2010 Quelyn Purdie
Sunday, October 31, 2010
Bul%**#!
Adults do it too. And it doesn’t matter whether or not we know each other or for how long. We do it in the parking lot, at home, the supermarket, during the morning/evening drive to/from work, at college, church, beauty pageants/contests/auditions, the landlord, elections, nations, at the office, the subway, and so on.
I will leave the reasons to the psychologists and focus on helping you to channel your energy towards doing something more extraordinary. I do know that it has made many of us stronger and productive human beings, while others either perished or became bitter, drifting through life barely functioning.
Bullying. It happened to me in ninth grade.
Barbara was introduced to the rest of us in my gym class. I attempted to strike up a conversation; perhaps I was a little too chatty or she just didn’t want to be bothered. After awhile I saw the kind of people she hung around so I let her be. Then I discovered she was in my English class. She sat right behind me. I thought, “Oh great! Maybe she wants to be friends after all.” Hm!
One day, during the lesson I felt a swirling motion with a sharp object, like a pen, on my left shoulder. I was wearing a white blouse that day. When I turned to see what Barbara was using, she flipped the pen to make it seem as though she was using the back part of the pen. We did this several times until I pulled the cloth over my shoulder enough to see the ink marks. Back then we didn’t say “Oh hell no!” or “No you didn’t!” So for me it was more like “What the ****?” In a low tone I demanded that she stop writing on my blouse. Of course she denied it, loud and nasty too. Mind you, the teacher never said anything to us the whole time.
I turned back to the lesson and felt the swirling motion again. Suddenly I swung my left hand at Barbara and we began to fight. I had a secret desire that we’d go on long enough so I could take out all my anger, fears and stereotypes I experienced living in foster care on her face. So I tried to pull her down or flip her but our teacher had summoned the principal, who pulled us apart.
My classmates congratulated me for defending myself, but the principal still contacted my foster parents. I don’t know what my foster mother said (she was a head start teacher in the community) but I wasn’t suspended. Barbara never bothered me again and I stayed out of trouble by making new friends through the clubs I joined for example the drama club, the school chorus and the honor society, and it didn’t hurt to befriend Vickie, one of the most popular – and smart – girls at our high school. I loved Vickie because she never judged me and I wasn’t even cool like some of the other students she hung with!
The bottom line is I didn’t become a bully because of pain or anger nor did I allow myself to become a victim because 1) I didn’t want to jeopardize any possibility of returning to my biological family especially my dad 2) I had dreams of becoming an actress, although I didn’t realize my gift of teaching until later in life 3) I wanted very much to go to college.*
So for me, becoming a “bully” or a “victim” was not an option. I had (and still have) ‘things to do’!
I agree bullying has always been a part of growing up. We “size each other up” or test the loyalty of friendships or other relationships. So what’s the big deal? Today, the fatalities of bullying have reached such alarming rates it demands aggressive attention. Bullying has sparked a national call to action.
Beyond Labels
Growing up I was called every black snake, spot, dot, pan, puff o’smoke, midnight, you can think of. I’m about the same complexion as Naomi Campbell, maybe a (gorgeous) shade more chocolate. Anyhow, my foster parents exposed me to the positives of African-American culture and even though I still struggled with the stereotypes of living in foster care, I learned to embrace and love my culture. I also discovered that my skin tone has nothing to do with my ability to excel and be a productive human being.
The moment we label ourselves or accept others’ definition for who we are or words that do not express our inner beauty and talent, we give up power over our mental state and we participate in our own mental jail. It’s like holding our own selves hostage.
When you fill your days with other things like focusing on your talent or taking action steps towards making your own dreams a reality, you will no longer have the time to be bothered with making someone else suffer. It’s No wonder why we are in a constant state of dis-ease: we get fired up for the wrong things!
Really, though, I believe (great) teachers and most of society wants the best for you. We do value your existence and we do believe in your greatness. So, being a “bully” or “victim” are not options…because you’ve got ‘things to do’!
Thank you for reading. ~ Quelyn
*Read Validation Denied, Grace Bestowed:somewhere between the ghetto and God was something called foster care… a memoir by Quelyn Purdie
Next on Q’s B-Spot: Kanye West’s RUNAWAY, The Film
Teen Task: 1. Give yourself a chance. 2. Everyday ask yourself the following questions: Who am I? Why am I here? What is my passion? Jot down answers that spontaneously arise for you. 3. Once a week or daily, jot down your experience, thoughts, concerns regarding bullying or being bullied. 4. Discuss this blog with your parents or with people you feel safe sharing your thoughts.
Fun Fact: According to PBSKids.org the word "bully" used to mean the total opposite of what it means now. Mid 1500’s, over 500 years ago, the root of the word comes from the Dutch boel which meant friend or lover. Not sure when or how we flipped the meaning.
Copyright©2010 Quelyn Purdie
I will leave the reasons to the psychologists and focus on helping you to channel your energy towards doing something more extraordinary. I do know that it has made many of us stronger and productive human beings, while others either perished or became bitter, drifting through life barely functioning.
Bullying. It happened to me in ninth grade.
Barbara was introduced to the rest of us in my gym class. I attempted to strike up a conversation; perhaps I was a little too chatty or she just didn’t want to be bothered. After awhile I saw the kind of people she hung around so I let her be. Then I discovered she was in my English class. She sat right behind me. I thought, “Oh great! Maybe she wants to be friends after all.” Hm!
One day, during the lesson I felt a swirling motion with a sharp object, like a pen, on my left shoulder. I was wearing a white blouse that day. When I turned to see what Barbara was using, she flipped the pen to make it seem as though she was using the back part of the pen. We did this several times until I pulled the cloth over my shoulder enough to see the ink marks. Back then we didn’t say “Oh hell no!” or “No you didn’t!” So for me it was more like “What the ****?” In a low tone I demanded that she stop writing on my blouse. Of course she denied it, loud and nasty too. Mind you, the teacher never said anything to us the whole time.
I turned back to the lesson and felt the swirling motion again. Suddenly I swung my left hand at Barbara and we began to fight. I had a secret desire that we’d go on long enough so I could take out all my anger, fears and stereotypes I experienced living in foster care on her face. So I tried to pull her down or flip her but our teacher had summoned the principal, who pulled us apart.
My classmates congratulated me for defending myself, but the principal still contacted my foster parents. I don’t know what my foster mother said (she was a head start teacher in the community) but I wasn’t suspended. Barbara never bothered me again and I stayed out of trouble by making new friends through the clubs I joined for example the drama club, the school chorus and the honor society, and it didn’t hurt to befriend Vickie, one of the most popular – and smart – girls at our high school. I loved Vickie because she never judged me and I wasn’t even cool like some of the other students she hung with!
The bottom line is I didn’t become a bully because of pain or anger nor did I allow myself to become a victim because 1) I didn’t want to jeopardize any possibility of returning to my biological family especially my dad 2) I had dreams of becoming an actress, although I didn’t realize my gift of teaching until later in life 3) I wanted very much to go to college.*
So for me, becoming a “bully” or a “victim” was not an option. I had (and still have) ‘things to do’!
I agree bullying has always been a part of growing up. We “size each other up” or test the loyalty of friendships or other relationships. So what’s the big deal? Today, the fatalities of bullying have reached such alarming rates it demands aggressive attention. Bullying has sparked a national call to action.
Beyond Labels
Growing up I was called every black snake, spot, dot, pan, puff o’smoke, midnight, you can think of. I’m about the same complexion as Naomi Campbell, maybe a (gorgeous) shade more chocolate. Anyhow, my foster parents exposed me to the positives of African-American culture and even though I still struggled with the stereotypes of living in foster care, I learned to embrace and love my culture. I also discovered that my skin tone has nothing to do with my ability to excel and be a productive human being.
The moment we label ourselves or accept others’ definition for who we are or words that do not express our inner beauty and talent, we give up power over our mental state and we participate in our own mental jail. It’s like holding our own selves hostage.
When you fill your days with other things like focusing on your talent or taking action steps towards making your own dreams a reality, you will no longer have the time to be bothered with making someone else suffer. It’s No wonder why we are in a constant state of dis-ease: we get fired up for the wrong things!
Really, though, I believe (great) teachers and most of society wants the best for you. We do value your existence and we do believe in your greatness. So, being a “bully” or “victim” are not options…because you’ve got ‘things to do’!
Thank you for reading. ~ Quelyn
*Read Validation Denied, Grace Bestowed:somewhere between the ghetto and God was something called foster care… a memoir by Quelyn Purdie
Next on Q’s B-Spot: Kanye West’s RUNAWAY, The Film
Teen Task: 1. Give yourself a chance. 2. Everyday ask yourself the following questions: Who am I? Why am I here? What is my passion? Jot down answers that spontaneously arise for you. 3. Once a week or daily, jot down your experience, thoughts, concerns regarding bullying or being bullied. 4. Discuss this blog with your parents or with people you feel safe sharing your thoughts.
Fun Fact: According to PBSKids.org the word "bully" used to mean the total opposite of what it means now. Mid 1500’s, over 500 years ago, the root of the word comes from the Dutch boel which meant friend or lover. Not sure when or how we flipped the meaning.
Copyright©2010 Quelyn Purdie
Thursday, September 30, 2010
School. Believe. Walk Across That Stage!™
When you think of school or education what’s the very first thing that comes to mind? A building with a lunchroom, gymnasium, classrooms…and the principle’s office? A teacher writing (an algebraic equation) on the board? Assignments and tests? How about your grandparents telling compelling stories about “back in the day”? Is school life? Or, is school all of the above?
As a teenager, I used to think school was a place, a building where we go to learn new things and if you “passed” you graduated (“passing” wasn’t good enough in our house – we had to excel – A’s and B’s). As I got closer to realizing my talent as an educator/teacher, I learned that school and education must include life experiences. I began to incorporate relevant life experience or examples into academic lessons and this became a major part of my teaching style. Furthermore, teaching became especially rewarding when my students responded to and appreciated the inclusion of personal anecdotes and hot news stories and gossip we hear in our daily lives. I also show students how life relates to the lesson at hand and why it is important to learn it.
When we change our perception of what school or education is, we open ourselves up to new, exciting and higher ways of learning and thinking. I truly learn something new every single day,
High school should be one of the most memorable times of your life. Demand it. Claim it. Don’t settle for less. Stay there and make it happen! To complete something whether it’s a task, assignment or goal and to do your very best, paves the way for great things to happen for you.
Change your view about school and your experience will probably become more meaningful and extraordinary in ways you never thought possible: you will attract appropriate friendships and support, you will enjoy learning, you will do better and experience a sense of accomplishment. Completion is a special sense of personal validation. Completion is dignity.
Do whatever it takes to complete. BUT do you……
BELIEVE. Do YOU truly believe you can stay and make it happen? Do YOU believe you can and will graduate? Give yourself a chance. See, it’s not the bully or other haters, it’s not your family, not even your teachers. It’s you, in your own way. Get out of your way now, GO HARD with your studies and….
WALK ACROSS THAT STAGE!™ I can’t tell you how crazy it is to graduate with your classmates. Ok, I’ll try. Let’s see…it’s like…it’s like….ok, here, I got it! (I think). Ever been on a plane for the very first time, and either you are excitedly scared or just plain excited as the plane increases speed down the runway, and just as it begins to take off….
Ok, that’s all I’ve got for you; I’m sure you get the picture. Anyhow, congratulations in advance.
Thank you for reading. Let’s go!
~ Quelyn
Teen Task: 1. Give yourself a chance. 2. Read everyday: a good novel or two, the paper, magazines, etc. in addition to your homework. You will notice improvement in your ability to write more creatively, clearly and intelligently. 3. Once a week or daily, jot down your thoughts, ideas, concerns, even pleasant moments in your journal. 4. For study tips read or re-read May’s Blog: Close Your Books and Take Out a Pen or Pencil 5. Discuss this blog with your parents or with people you feel safe sharing your thoughts.
Copyright©2010 Quelyn Purdie
As a teenager, I used to think school was a place, a building where we go to learn new things and if you “passed” you graduated (“passing” wasn’t good enough in our house – we had to excel – A’s and B’s). As I got closer to realizing my talent as an educator/teacher, I learned that school and education must include life experiences. I began to incorporate relevant life experience or examples into academic lessons and this became a major part of my teaching style. Furthermore, teaching became especially rewarding when my students responded to and appreciated the inclusion of personal anecdotes and hot news stories and gossip we hear in our daily lives. I also show students how life relates to the lesson at hand and why it is important to learn it.
When we change our perception of what school or education is, we open ourselves up to new, exciting and higher ways of learning and thinking. I truly learn something new every single day,
High school should be one of the most memorable times of your life. Demand it. Claim it. Don’t settle for less. Stay there and make it happen! To complete something whether it’s a task, assignment or goal and to do your very best, paves the way for great things to happen for you.
Change your view about school and your experience will probably become more meaningful and extraordinary in ways you never thought possible: you will attract appropriate friendships and support, you will enjoy learning, you will do better and experience a sense of accomplishment. Completion is a special sense of personal validation. Completion is dignity.
Do whatever it takes to complete. BUT do you……
BELIEVE. Do YOU truly believe you can stay and make it happen? Do YOU believe you can and will graduate? Give yourself a chance. See, it’s not the bully or other haters, it’s not your family, not even your teachers. It’s you, in your own way. Get out of your way now, GO HARD with your studies and….
WALK ACROSS THAT STAGE!™ I can’t tell you how crazy it is to graduate with your classmates. Ok, I’ll try. Let’s see…it’s like…it’s like….ok, here, I got it! (I think). Ever been on a plane for the very first time, and either you are excitedly scared or just plain excited as the plane increases speed down the runway, and just as it begins to take off….
Ok, that’s all I’ve got for you; I’m sure you get the picture. Anyhow, congratulations in advance.
Thank you for reading. Let’s go!
~ Quelyn
Teen Task: 1. Give yourself a chance. 2. Read everyday: a good novel or two, the paper, magazines, etc. in addition to your homework. You will notice improvement in your ability to write more creatively, clearly and intelligently. 3. Once a week or daily, jot down your thoughts, ideas, concerns, even pleasant moments in your journal. 4. For study tips read or re-read May’s Blog: Close Your Books and Take Out a Pen or Pencil 5. Discuss this blog with your parents or with people you feel safe sharing your thoughts.
Copyright©2010 Quelyn Purdie
Monday, June 28, 2010
The Best Summer Ever!
Whatever you choose to do this summer you just want to unwind from the intense academic or work year you’ve had, and have some fun, right? And so you should! But we get so caught up in our plans that we forget to include safety and self-care in our activities. Whether you will be travelling out of town or staying close to home, below are a few safety and self-care tips I definitely use and think you will find helpful towards making your summer the best ever. As with anything, definitely double check the information and do your research.
Beat The Streets
1. Be aware of your surroundings, even your own neighborhood – you may know your ‘hood like the back of your hand but even if you are with someone, it still won’t hurt to let your eyes scan your block as you turn corners, or while crossing the street. Allow your eyes to sweep between cars, bushes, door steps, trees, etc. as you walk. Also if you sense someone walking behind you, give a casual glance over your shoulder, as you continue to walk; now they know you are aware of their presence.
One evening I got off the bus and as I walked down my block, I heard footsteps quicken behind me. Maintaining my pace (I believe when you run you invite a chase, make the person more angry and when or if they catch up to you the result is more fatal), I glanced over my shoulder at the person and they moved to the other side of the street.
2. Change it up – when I ride the bus home I signal the bus to stop on a different corner every now and then. I am also lucky to have a flexible work schedule so I leave my building and return various hours any day of the week, thereby minimizing “surprise”!
3. No walking-text – I know it’s addicting and “conversations” get juicy but seriously, don’t text (or chat on your cell) while crossing the street or where there is public traffic. Stop somewhere safe to complete your texting. Remain aware of your surroundings while talking on your cell phone.
Wave Ur Hands In Tha Air (But Party Like You Really DO Care!)
1. Be alert – take note of emergency exits and security personnel at the club, party or gathering. So. if you see something that looks uncharacteristically out of place, or someone behaving in a manner that could harm others (or themselves), alert the host and any security personnel is available.
2. Drink responsibly –if alcoholic beverages are served do not drink to “get wasted” or “juiced” “crunked” or “####! up” An altered state of mind opens up opportunity for others to take advantage of you…or a more fatal result and, it just doesn’t look good.
All Aboard!
1. If you will be travelling out of town by public transportation, pay special attention to demonstrations or tutorials regarding safety. Hey, you never know – remembering (and doing) that one tiny-seemingly unimportant- thing the stewardess or conductor said or did could be the very thing that saves your life and others.
2. Trust “the hunch” – a few years ago I was exiting the subway in Manhattan and as I went through the turnstile I noticed a black attaché case stuffed between the high beam and ceiling. It looked out of place. This is key, no matter how harmless something may seem. Anyhow, there were a few cops chatting near the teller’s window and I told them. One of the cops, a woman, grabbed the bag from the ceiling and plopped it on the floor. Obviously it was harmless and she walked off with the bag. I did not feel stupid, in fact, I felt I did my job as a resident of this city. It’s not about looking good, it’s about doing what it takes to safely get to your destination…..and back.
How YOU Doin’?
1. Polish your swagga - your peers and others will “recognize” or respect you more when you hold yourself in esteem. Also, if someone in your crew is wildin’ out, check ‘em or let them know they can’t be with you – don’t join the negativity. Think about it: what kind of life do you really want? Constant drama and failure or support and success?
2. Your body, your temple – whether it’s a self-defense class, pilates or yoga class do something to strengthen and tone your body (and mind). It has been suggested to drink beverages that contain plenty of electrolytes after a workout because the beverages provide cellular hydration and replenish your energy. Also drink lots of water and eat plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables. (Consult your physician regarding the appropriate diet and excersie for you).
Avoid overly risky behavior, for example eating too many mixtures of food all at once, or racing down the street on your new motor bike…without a helmet.
3. Get Ready to Stay Ready – use your summer down time to prepare for college, i.e., take a SAT (Standardized Achievement Test) prep class, visit colleges, practice completing college applications, etc. Build your resume by doing volunteer work in your community or getting a meaningful job. If you are an aspiring performing artist keep studying, auditioning and practicing your craft. Just keep learning and preparing, while you have fun.
For the young ladies and young men who have children: All too often I hear the phrase "once you have children you no longer have a life" or “the fun days are over”. I completely disagree. Becoming a parent does not mean the fun is over. I repeat: your fun days are not over. You will, however, need to create a new lifestyle which includes building a strong network of support and a new crew of friends who share your interests. Furthermore, you should design a strong relationship with your child(ren) by spending as much time with them as possible – learning who they are and the potential gifts they will one day contribute to humanity. So yes, your level of responsibility increases in ways the rest of us who don’t have children can not fathom. BUT you still deserve to enjoy life and…. have the best summer ever!
Thank you for reading. ~ Quelyn
Teen Task: 1. Give yourself a chance. 2. Once a week or daily, jot down your thoughts, ideas, concerns, pleasant moments in your journal. 3. Read everyday: a good novel or two, the paper, magazines, etc. Your ability to write more creatively, clearly and intelligently will increase! 4. Discuss this blog with your parents or with people you feel safe sharing your thoughts.
Copyright©2010 Quelyn Purdie
Beat The Streets
1. Be aware of your surroundings, even your own neighborhood – you may know your ‘hood like the back of your hand but even if you are with someone, it still won’t hurt to let your eyes scan your block as you turn corners, or while crossing the street. Allow your eyes to sweep between cars, bushes, door steps, trees, etc. as you walk. Also if you sense someone walking behind you, give a casual glance over your shoulder, as you continue to walk; now they know you are aware of their presence.
One evening I got off the bus and as I walked down my block, I heard footsteps quicken behind me. Maintaining my pace (I believe when you run you invite a chase, make the person more angry and when or if they catch up to you the result is more fatal), I glanced over my shoulder at the person and they moved to the other side of the street.
2. Change it up – when I ride the bus home I signal the bus to stop on a different corner every now and then. I am also lucky to have a flexible work schedule so I leave my building and return various hours any day of the week, thereby minimizing “surprise”!
3. No walking-text – I know it’s addicting and “conversations” get juicy but seriously, don’t text (or chat on your cell) while crossing the street or where there is public traffic. Stop somewhere safe to complete your texting. Remain aware of your surroundings while talking on your cell phone.
Wave Ur Hands In Tha Air (But Party Like You Really DO Care!)
1. Be alert – take note of emergency exits and security personnel at the club, party or gathering. So. if you see something that looks uncharacteristically out of place, or someone behaving in a manner that could harm others (or themselves), alert the host and any security personnel is available.
2. Drink responsibly –if alcoholic beverages are served do not drink to “get wasted” or “juiced” “crunked” or “####! up” An altered state of mind opens up opportunity for others to take advantage of you…or a more fatal result and, it just doesn’t look good.
All Aboard!
1. If you will be travelling out of town by public transportation, pay special attention to demonstrations or tutorials regarding safety. Hey, you never know – remembering (and doing) that one tiny-seemingly unimportant- thing the stewardess or conductor said or did could be the very thing that saves your life and others.
2. Trust “the hunch” – a few years ago I was exiting the subway in Manhattan and as I went through the turnstile I noticed a black attaché case stuffed between the high beam and ceiling. It looked out of place. This is key, no matter how harmless something may seem. Anyhow, there were a few cops chatting near the teller’s window and I told them. One of the cops, a woman, grabbed the bag from the ceiling and plopped it on the floor. Obviously it was harmless and she walked off with the bag. I did not feel stupid, in fact, I felt I did my job as a resident of this city. It’s not about looking good, it’s about doing what it takes to safely get to your destination…..and back.
How YOU Doin’?
1. Polish your swagga - your peers and others will “recognize” or respect you more when you hold yourself in esteem. Also, if someone in your crew is wildin’ out, check ‘em or let them know they can’t be with you – don’t join the negativity. Think about it: what kind of life do you really want? Constant drama and failure or support and success?
2. Your body, your temple – whether it’s a self-defense class, pilates or yoga class do something to strengthen and tone your body (and mind). It has been suggested to drink beverages that contain plenty of electrolytes after a workout because the beverages provide cellular hydration and replenish your energy. Also drink lots of water and eat plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables. (Consult your physician regarding the appropriate diet and excersie for you).
Avoid overly risky behavior, for example eating too many mixtures of food all at once, or racing down the street on your new motor bike…without a helmet.
3. Get Ready to Stay Ready – use your summer down time to prepare for college, i.e., take a SAT (Standardized Achievement Test) prep class, visit colleges, practice completing college applications, etc. Build your resume by doing volunteer work in your community or getting a meaningful job. If you are an aspiring performing artist keep studying, auditioning and practicing your craft. Just keep learning and preparing, while you have fun.
For the young ladies and young men who have children: All too often I hear the phrase "once you have children you no longer have a life" or “the fun days are over”. I completely disagree. Becoming a parent does not mean the fun is over. I repeat: your fun days are not over. You will, however, need to create a new lifestyle which includes building a strong network of support and a new crew of friends who share your interests. Furthermore, you should design a strong relationship with your child(ren) by spending as much time with them as possible – learning who they are and the potential gifts they will one day contribute to humanity. So yes, your level of responsibility increases in ways the rest of us who don’t have children can not fathom. BUT you still deserve to enjoy life and…. have the best summer ever!
Thank you for reading. ~ Quelyn
Teen Task: 1. Give yourself a chance. 2. Once a week or daily, jot down your thoughts, ideas, concerns, pleasant moments in your journal. 3. Read everyday: a good novel or two, the paper, magazines, etc. Your ability to write more creatively, clearly and intelligently will increase! 4. Discuss this blog with your parents or with people you feel safe sharing your thoughts.
Copyright©2010 Quelyn Purdie
Monday, May 31, 2010
Close Your Books and Take Out a Pen Or Pencil ….
"What?!” or “Whoa, whoa, whoa!” did you say? Not Ed, a friend I used to date in college. He could party the night before an exam and still ace the test. The rest of us in the crew were habitual crammers (studying the night before an exam) or had to study almost forever just to get a B! Did Ed already have great study habits? Was he just smart? Or both?
In high school I pretty much stayed ready, prepared for pop quizzes and big tests by reading ahead or doing bonus work for extra credit (I also thought that making the honor roll would be my ticket to hang with some of the popular girls who were very smart!). Furthermore, anything below a B was not acceptable, no matter who took care of me (get your copy of my memoir, Validation Denied, Grace Bestowed:somewhere between the ghetto and God was something called foster care…). I was more concerned about looking good academically versus the ‘egg-on-the-face’ of some students who would gasp or mumble a swear word when our teachers uttered the words close your books and take out a pen or pencil.
Below is a short questionnaire about your own study habits and views about homework. I view questionnaires as a fun way to do a self-evaluation or personal check-in, to clarify or resolve my thoughts or ideas about an issue or something I care about. The key is self-honesty. Your responses to the questionnaire below may give you a sense of your level of sincerity as a student, or you may even discover a new strategy for using assignments to better prepare you for pop quizzes and big tests. But before you begin, take a moment to breathe in deep – as though you are smelling fresh flowers or your favorite food – then gently breathe out long – as though you are softly blowing on a dandelion. Now close your books and take out a pen or pencil….
1. When my teacher keeps repeating a word or sentence regarding a topic I
a. think they’re repeating themselves because other students are not paying attention
b. immediately write it in my notebook
c. feel they’re being condescending
2. When I get home from school the first thing I usually do is
a. immediately start my homework
b. take a nap then do my homework
c. do chores/ help out with dinner
d. eat a snack
3. I do most of my studying
a. at home with music, TV or other “noise”
b. with a study buddy
c. alone at a library or other quiet place
d. in class/school
4. When I get stuck on a homework question I
a: wait until we go over it in class
b. ask someone for help
c. try to figure it out by researching the topic
5. When I have a lot of homework I
a. panic and do nothing
b. copy the answers from a classmate just to get it done
c. do the easy or quick things first then the more time-consuming tasks
6. I feel homework is
a. just something to keep students out of trouble
b. a great way to review class work
c. totally unnecessary
7. I am comfortable asking questions in class.
a. Yes
b. No – I don’t want to look stupid (or smart)
c. Only with my teacher at the end of class
8. Before the date of a big test I
a. reread my notes and old tests
b. cram (study the night before the test)
c. get friends or family together and have them quiz me
d. relax and do nothing (or party) – this keeps me calm
9. Other than schoolwork and assignments I read
a. books
b. magazines
c. internet entertainment content
d. nothing else
10. I have a tutor/willing to be tutored.
a. Yes
b. No
Keep learning and good luck on all your exams!
~ Quelyn
Next on Q’s B-Spot: Making The Most Out of Your Summer
Teen Task: 1. Give yourself a chance. 2. Write in your journal 3 things you can do NOW to be ready for finals or regents exams 3. Discuss this blog with your parents or with people you feel safe sharing your thoughts.
Copyright©2010 Quelyn Purdie
In high school I pretty much stayed ready, prepared for pop quizzes and big tests by reading ahead or doing bonus work for extra credit (I also thought that making the honor roll would be my ticket to hang with some of the popular girls who were very smart!). Furthermore, anything below a B was not acceptable, no matter who took care of me (get your copy of my memoir, Validation Denied, Grace Bestowed:somewhere between the ghetto and God was something called foster care…). I was more concerned about looking good academically versus the ‘egg-on-the-face’ of some students who would gasp or mumble a swear word when our teachers uttered the words close your books and take out a pen or pencil.
Below is a short questionnaire about your own study habits and views about homework. I view questionnaires as a fun way to do a self-evaluation or personal check-in, to clarify or resolve my thoughts or ideas about an issue or something I care about. The key is self-honesty. Your responses to the questionnaire below may give you a sense of your level of sincerity as a student, or you may even discover a new strategy for using assignments to better prepare you for pop quizzes and big tests. But before you begin, take a moment to breathe in deep – as though you are smelling fresh flowers or your favorite food – then gently breathe out long – as though you are softly blowing on a dandelion. Now close your books and take out a pen or pencil….
1. When my teacher keeps repeating a word or sentence regarding a topic I
a. think they’re repeating themselves because other students are not paying attention
b. immediately write it in my notebook
c. feel they’re being condescending
2. When I get home from school the first thing I usually do is
a. immediately start my homework
b. take a nap then do my homework
c. do chores/ help out with dinner
d. eat a snack
3. I do most of my studying
a. at home with music, TV or other “noise”
b. with a study buddy
c. alone at a library or other quiet place
d. in class/school
4. When I get stuck on a homework question I
a: wait until we go over it in class
b. ask someone for help
c. try to figure it out by researching the topic
5. When I have a lot of homework I
a. panic and do nothing
b. copy the answers from a classmate just to get it done
c. do the easy or quick things first then the more time-consuming tasks
6. I feel homework is
a. just something to keep students out of trouble
b. a great way to review class work
c. totally unnecessary
7. I am comfortable asking questions in class.
a. Yes
b. No – I don’t want to look stupid (or smart)
c. Only with my teacher at the end of class
8. Before the date of a big test I
a. reread my notes and old tests
b. cram (study the night before the test)
c. get friends or family together and have them quiz me
d. relax and do nothing (or party) – this keeps me calm
9. Other than schoolwork and assignments I read
a. books
b. magazines
c. internet entertainment content
d. nothing else
10. I have a tutor/willing to be tutored.
a. Yes
b. No
Keep learning and good luck on all your exams!
~ Quelyn
Next on Q’s B-Spot: Making The Most Out of Your Summer
Teen Task: 1. Give yourself a chance. 2. Write in your journal 3 things you can do NOW to be ready for finals or regents exams 3. Discuss this blog with your parents or with people you feel safe sharing your thoughts.
Copyright©2010 Quelyn Purdie
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
All Teens and Parents....STRIP!
Yes, strip yourself….from those techo wires that nonchalantly dangle from your pockets, purses, backpacks and ears…and take back your family table! All I’m saying is reserve at least an hour every night for family meal, game or something that allows you to get to know your family beyond the squabbles, the fake ‘grill’ when relatives come over or the occasional “Hey” as you pass one another to get to the refrigerator or bathroom…while your eyes are glued to the screen on your sidekick.
Believe me; I’d LOVE to own an iPod. One of my favorite activities is listening to great music including jazz, classical, and rock. But if I were listening to, let’s say, The Hallelujah Chorus by Handel on Bose® ear buds I really believe I’d zone out and I wouldn’t be as focused on the world around me as I would without music in my ears (no pun intended). Furthermore, for me, it’s (life and living) not about blocking things or others out; rather it’s about being in tune and connected in this increasingly tentative world.
Of course technology has its place and it is mandatory if we are to keep up with and participate in the global economy but, as with anything else, we take things for granted. We tend to go overboard, especially when we discover something new, to the point where we ‘log off’ from the important things in life, like family and school (raising your hand in the middle of my lesson and ask to go to the bathroom, while holding your Blackberry in the other hand, fingers anxiously poised to respond to the text that beckons you to said bathroom!). LOL
Last year, around this time, I watched an episode of the Oprah Winfrey Show where Oprah asked two families to take the “What Can You Live Without” Challenge. One beautiful family of four stood out for me because of the teenager’s response when asked to give up her cell phone, which she used to spend hours in her bedroom texting friends. Her response? “What am I supposed to do; read a book?” My educational antennae not only went up, but they swirled, tripped, flopped and flipped at the teen’s response. See, when I was a teenager, I read 3-5 novels every summer, because I wanted to escape to ‘another world’ and learn about topics that interested me as a tween/teen. One of the first novels I read was Jacqueline Suzanne’s Once Is Not Enough, which I borrowed from my older sister at the time (looking back on the hot and juicy story, I’m not so sure I’d recommend it for a thirteen year old). The point is, reading has so many benefits including learning about new things, expanding your vocabulary and definitely increasing writing skills (why not have an arsenal of words for those classy parties, job interviews, SAT tests or meet-my-girlfriend’s/boyfriend’s-parents moments?).
Anyhow, the family, which consisted of a teenager, her younger brother and their parents, knew very little about one another even though they lived in the same house! They were all so wired up with their iPods, cells, and computer they had “logged off” from one another’s concerns and presence in the home. So their task was to get rid of all their technology and discover new ways to spend time together….for one week. Towards the end of the challenge the family experienced the vitality, gratitude and sanctity of being together.
So go ahead. Reserve a tech-free hour every evening for family dinner, games or selfless service at your community center, library, church, theatre, park, etc. I am sure you will discover beautiful things about each other you wouldn’t have otherwise discovered while zoning out in the world of technology. It may feel a little strange to finally BE together but it is a process, so don’t feel discouraged if things don’t work out right away. Just keep coming back to the table…or carpet-with-pillows. Whatever your family ‘table’ might be, have fun creating it.
Teen/Family Task: 1. Give yourselves a chance. 2. Create/re-create your family “table” – Is it a beautiful piece of carpet with pillows and place mats? A nice space with a table and chairs? 3. Check out the following link for more ideas: http://media.oprah.com/tows/what-can-you-live-without-survival-guide.pdf 4. Discuss this blog with your parents or with people you feel safe sharing your thoughts.
Fun Fact: Each year in America, children and teens spend an average of 2,372 hours plugged into technology. That is approximately three and half months of watching TV; texting friends; working on the computer; playing video games; and chatting on the cell phone.
Thank you for reading. Don't forget to visit us at http://www.beyondlabelz.com/
~ Quelyn
Copyright©2010 Quelyn Purdie
Believe me; I’d LOVE to own an iPod. One of my favorite activities is listening to great music including jazz, classical, and rock. But if I were listening to, let’s say, The Hallelujah Chorus by Handel on Bose® ear buds I really believe I’d zone out and I wouldn’t be as focused on the world around me as I would without music in my ears (no pun intended). Furthermore, for me, it’s (life and living) not about blocking things or others out; rather it’s about being in tune and connected in this increasingly tentative world.
Of course technology has its place and it is mandatory if we are to keep up with and participate in the global economy but, as with anything else, we take things for granted. We tend to go overboard, especially when we discover something new, to the point where we ‘log off’ from the important things in life, like family and school (raising your hand in the middle of my lesson and ask to go to the bathroom, while holding your Blackberry in the other hand, fingers anxiously poised to respond to the text that beckons you to said bathroom!). LOL
Last year, around this time, I watched an episode of the Oprah Winfrey Show where Oprah asked two families to take the “What Can You Live Without” Challenge. One beautiful family of four stood out for me because of the teenager’s response when asked to give up her cell phone, which she used to spend hours in her bedroom texting friends. Her response? “What am I supposed to do; read a book?” My educational antennae not only went up, but they swirled, tripped, flopped and flipped at the teen’s response. See, when I was a teenager, I read 3-5 novels every summer, because I wanted to escape to ‘another world’ and learn about topics that interested me as a tween/teen. One of the first novels I read was Jacqueline Suzanne’s Once Is Not Enough, which I borrowed from my older sister at the time (looking back on the hot and juicy story, I’m not so sure I’d recommend it for a thirteen year old). The point is, reading has so many benefits including learning about new things, expanding your vocabulary and definitely increasing writing skills (why not have an arsenal of words for those classy parties, job interviews, SAT tests or meet-my-girlfriend’s/boyfriend’s-parents moments?).
Anyhow, the family, which consisted of a teenager, her younger brother and their parents, knew very little about one another even though they lived in the same house! They were all so wired up with their iPods, cells, and computer they had “logged off” from one another’s concerns and presence in the home. So their task was to get rid of all their technology and discover new ways to spend time together….for one week. Towards the end of the challenge the family experienced the vitality, gratitude and sanctity of being together.
So go ahead. Reserve a tech-free hour every evening for family dinner, games or selfless service at your community center, library, church, theatre, park, etc. I am sure you will discover beautiful things about each other you wouldn’t have otherwise discovered while zoning out in the world of technology. It may feel a little strange to finally BE together but it is a process, so don’t feel discouraged if things don’t work out right away. Just keep coming back to the table…or carpet-with-pillows. Whatever your family ‘table’ might be, have fun creating it.
Teen/Family Task: 1. Give yourselves a chance. 2. Create/re-create your family “table” – Is it a beautiful piece of carpet with pillows and place mats? A nice space with a table and chairs? 3. Check out the following link for more ideas: http://media.oprah.com/tows/what-can-you-live-without-survival-guide.pdf 4. Discuss this blog with your parents or with people you feel safe sharing your thoughts.
Fun Fact: Each year in America, children and teens spend an average of 2,372 hours plugged into technology. That is approximately three and half months of watching TV; texting friends; working on the computer; playing video games; and chatting on the cell phone.
Thank you for reading. Don't forget to visit us at http://www.beyondlabelz.com/
~ Quelyn
Copyright©2010 Quelyn Purdie
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Heart-Shaped Balloons, Roses and a Bear….Hug
I contemplated how I would dedicate this month’s blog to volunteers and the people of Haiti who are dealing with life after the January 12, 2010 earthquake. The word that came up for me was service.
So, since Q’s B-Spot is geared toward teenagers, I want to take a brief moment to acknowledge YOU all over the world and here, in our own ‘backyard’ who served through your school, a TV show, spiritual organization, concert/telethon or fortunate enough to actually visit Haiti to help fellow youth and teens. Selfless service is one of the highest acts a human being can perform.
I salute you.
Remember to take care of self and remain focused – after all, you still have to study and keep it (your own daily life) moving, right?
Next on Q’s B-Spot: (it’s just too hot to reveal …Stay tuned!)
Teen Task: 1. Give yourself a chance. 2. Be grateful for the ability and opportunity to serve others. 3. Continue selfless service for whatever (noble) cause you have chosen 4. Give YOURSELF heart-shaped balloons, roses and a bear….hug 5. Discuss this blog with your parents or with people you feel safe sharing your thoughts.
Fun Fact: Yéle Haiti is a foundation started by Grammy-Award winning musician, producer and social entrepreneur Wyclef Jean. In response to the January 12, 2010 earthquake, Yéle Haiti has prepared and distributed over 60,000 hot meals in a pilot program that began Sunday, January 24th, 2010.
Thank you for reading. Don't forget to visit us at www.beyondlabelz.com ~ Quelyn
Copyright©2010 Quelyn Purdie
So, since Q’s B-Spot is geared toward teenagers, I want to take a brief moment to acknowledge YOU all over the world and here, in our own ‘backyard’ who served through your school, a TV show, spiritual organization, concert/telethon or fortunate enough to actually visit Haiti to help fellow youth and teens. Selfless service is one of the highest acts a human being can perform.
I salute you.
Remember to take care of self and remain focused – after all, you still have to study and keep it (your own daily life) moving, right?
Next on Q’s B-Spot: (it’s just too hot to reveal …Stay tuned!)
Teen Task: 1. Give yourself a chance. 2. Be grateful for the ability and opportunity to serve others. 3. Continue selfless service for whatever (noble) cause you have chosen 4. Give YOURSELF heart-shaped balloons, roses and a bear….hug 5. Discuss this blog with your parents or with people you feel safe sharing your thoughts.
Fun Fact: Yéle Haiti is a foundation started by Grammy-Award winning musician, producer and social entrepreneur Wyclef Jean. In response to the January 12, 2010 earthquake, Yéle Haiti has prepared and distributed over 60,000 hot meals in a pilot program that began Sunday, January 24th, 2010.
Thank you for reading. Don't forget to visit us at www.beyondlabelz.com ~ Quelyn
Copyright©2010 Quelyn Purdie
Monday, January 18, 2010
Resolution 2010
Below is a list of resolutions and sample actions to hoep you begin your journey towards an even healthier and meaningful life. but first let’s quickly review the word resolution. in my last blog about Precious, The Film, I briefly discussed the root word 'resolute' and defined it as resolving to do something, for a greater good or personal advancement. Remember the scene in the social worker’s office, towards the end of the film where Precious grabs her two children and vows to never see her mother again? This is an example of being resolute. Now let’s begin….
1. End toxic relationships. Sample action: increase time with new friends or establish a new network of support.
2. Stop eating chips and soda for breakfast. Sample action: eat fruit salad or a piece of whole fruit i.e., pear, orange, tangerine, melon; and/or bowl of hot cereal.
3. Increase test scores. Sample action: ask a classmate who is doing well in my class or stay after school with my teacher or tutor.
4. Increase focus. Sample action: go to bed earlier; create a quiet, beautiful spot in my room/apartment to focus on my breathing for a few minutes each day and evening before bedtime.
5. Arrive to school on time. Sample action: rise about a half-hour earlier or leave my home about a half-hour earlier.
6. Spend more time with my little brother or sister. Sample action: help my brother or sister with their homework.
7.Talk to my parents (or guardian) more. Sample action: ask my parents how their day was, or ask them to share a story about their favorite relative or family tree.
8. Conquer boredom. Sample action: Volunteer or intern for 2 hours a week or more at my neighborhood church, community center, library, school, hospital, radio/tv station, museum. bookstore, recordshop, toy store.
9. Start planning for college. Sample action: set up regular meetings with my guidance counselor or mentor regarding exam prep, college tours, help with applications.
10. Stop texting while driving (walking, climbing/descending stairs, etc.)! Sample action: I will wait until I pull over or in a safe spot to text. Stop talking on my cell before crossing the street or while driving. Remember – “Don’t tempt fate. That text or talk can wait” (Oprah, Oprah Winfrey Show, 1/18/10)
Next on Q’s B-Spot: The Idol Affect: Q-Tips For Your Audition or Interview
Teen Task: 1. Give yourself a chance. 2. Choose one or more resolutions from the list above (you can also create your own) and add 2 more actions you can do NOW for each resolution. Write your resolution and action plan in your journal or notebook. Remember, you resolve to do something for a healthier and meaningful life. 3. Discuss this blog with your parents or with people you feel safe sharing your thoughts.
Fun Fact: Youth 14 years of age or over are not required to have employment certificates to work as caddies, babysitters or to engage in casual employment such as yard work and household chores in and about a residence or on the premises of a non-profit, non-commercial organization, not involving the use of power driven machinery. Click here for more information! http://schools.nyc.gov/StudentSupport/StudentAttendance/WorkingPapers/default.htm
Thank you for reading. Don't forget to visit us at www.beyondlabelz.com ~ Quelyn
Copyright©2010 Quelyn Purdie
1. End toxic relationships. Sample action: increase time with new friends or establish a new network of support.
2. Stop eating chips and soda for breakfast. Sample action: eat fruit salad or a piece of whole fruit i.e., pear, orange, tangerine, melon; and/or bowl of hot cereal.
3. Increase test scores. Sample action: ask a classmate who is doing well in my class or stay after school with my teacher or tutor.
4. Increase focus. Sample action: go to bed earlier; create a quiet, beautiful spot in my room/apartment to focus on my breathing for a few minutes each day and evening before bedtime.
5. Arrive to school on time. Sample action: rise about a half-hour earlier or leave my home about a half-hour earlier.
6. Spend more time with my little brother or sister. Sample action: help my brother or sister with their homework.
7.Talk to my parents (or guardian) more. Sample action: ask my parents how their day was, or ask them to share a story about their favorite relative or family tree.
8. Conquer boredom. Sample action: Volunteer or intern for 2 hours a week or more at my neighborhood church, community center, library, school, hospital, radio/tv station, museum. bookstore, recordshop, toy store.
9. Start planning for college. Sample action: set up regular meetings with my guidance counselor or mentor regarding exam prep, college tours, help with applications.
10. Stop texting while driving (walking, climbing/descending stairs, etc.)! Sample action: I will wait until I pull over or in a safe spot to text. Stop talking on my cell before crossing the street or while driving. Remember – “Don’t tempt fate. That text or talk can wait” (Oprah, Oprah Winfrey Show, 1/18/10)
Next on Q’s B-Spot: The Idol Affect: Q-Tips For Your Audition or Interview
Teen Task: 1. Give yourself a chance. 2. Choose one or more resolutions from the list above (you can also create your own) and add 2 more actions you can do NOW for each resolution. Write your resolution and action plan in your journal or notebook. Remember, you resolve to do something for a healthier and meaningful life. 3. Discuss this blog with your parents or with people you feel safe sharing your thoughts.
Fun Fact: Youth 14 years of age or over are not required to have employment certificates to work as caddies, babysitters or to engage in casual employment such as yard work and household chores in and about a residence or on the premises of a non-profit, non-commercial organization, not involving the use of power driven machinery. Click here for more information! http://schools.nyc.gov/StudentSupport/StudentAttendance/WorkingPapers/default.htm
Thank you for reading. Don't forget to visit us at www.beyondlabelz.com ~ Quelyn
Copyright©2010 Quelyn Purdie
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